Decreased Desire

It is typical that at some stage in life, a person will experience decreased desire. This is marked by a decreased interest in sex, less engagement in sexual activity, and fewer sexual fantasies. It can be chronic (long-term) or episodic. It can caused by a change in hormone levels, but could be part of an underlying condition, such as depression, or arise because of another sexual problem, such as dyspareunia. In this case, a woman loses interest in sex because of the pain she endures during intercourse.

Although it is quite common, a decrease in desire could be indicative of relationship problems in some cases, difficulties with body-image, poor self-esteem, or excessive alcohol consumption and anxiety.

Firstly, it is important to be honest and open with your partner about the situation, and you may wish to seek medical and psychological support. Treatment will depend on the cause; therefore it is important to establish why the problem occurred, and what is maintaining it. Low desire could be due to a number of various factors, rather than one reason alone. Medical issues should be excluded, and couples should be willing to look at their relationship and think about considering couple’s therapy. Couple’s therapy will involve looking at the relationship’s history and current dynamics, with the aim of better understanding themselves and their partner and seeing where change can be implemented.